Divorce
Separation or divorce is not prohibited in Buddhism though the necessity would
scarcely arise if the Buddha's injunctions were strictly followed. Men and women
must have the liberty to separate if they really cannot agree with each other.
Separation is preferable to avoid miserable family life for a long period of
time. The Buddha further advises old men not to have young wives as the old
and young are unlikely to be compatible, which can create undue problems, disharmony
and downfall (Parabhava Sutta).
A society grows through a network of relationships which are mutually inter-twined
and inter-dependent. Every relationship is a whole hearted commitment to support
and to protect others in a group or community. Marriage plays a very important
part in this strong web of relationships of giving support and protection. A
good marriage should grow and develop gradually from understanding and not impulse,
from true loyalty and not just sheer indulgence. The institution of marriage
provides a fine basis for the development of culture, a delightful association
of two individuals to be nurtured, and to be free from loneliness, deprivation
and fear. In marriage, each partner develops a complementary role, giving strength
and moral courage to one another, each manifesting a supportive and appreciative
recognition of the other's skills. There must be no thought of either man or
woman being superior, each is complementary to the other, a partnership of equality,
exuding gentleness, generosity, calm and dedication.