If you want to see the brave, look at those who can forgive.
Ette Hillesum, a victim of the Nazi concentration camps , writes of the healing
surrender into grief and forgiveness:And you must be able to bear your sorrow;
even if it seems to crush you, you will be able to stand up again, for human beings
are so strong, and your sorrow must become an integral part of yourself; you mustn
not run away from it.
Do not relive your feelings through hatred, do not seek to avenge on all Germans,
for they too, feel sorrow at this moment. Give your sorrow all the space and shelter
in yourself that is it's due, for if everyone bears grief honestly and courageously,
the sorrow that now fills the world will abate. But if you do instead reserve
most of the space inside you for hatred and thoughts of revenge- for which new
sorrows will be born for others-then sorrow will never cease in this world. And
if you have given sorrow the space it demands, then you may truly say: life is
beautiful and so rich that it makes you want to believe in God.
When we judge, when we hate, when we harden our eyes and hearts, we perpetuate
great harm to ourselves and the world, and we lose the way to peace and healing.
Mercy and nonviolence bring healing and peace.
We must first stop the war within ourselves. This is the way of Ahimsa-nonharming
In separateness, lies the world's great misery, said the Buddha.