Bodhicitta
Teaching
by Lama Zasep Tulku Rinpoche
September 1998, Vancouver, BC, Canada
It
says, "Teaching that the only way to enter the Mahayana is to develop bodhicitta."
And this is the beauty, this is the benefit of the bodhicitta practice. Then you
can gain the name, you can gain the name "Child of the Buddha." Or in
other words, you can say you can gain the name "Son or Daughter of the Bodhicitta."
And when you cultivate bodhicitta, you become actually the son or daughter of
the Buddha. It says, Shantideva said, I would like to read the translation, Shantideva
said in the Deeds of the Bodhisattva, Bodhisattvacharyavatara, "From the
moment ?? beings trapped in samsara's prison develop bodhicitta they are given
the name Child of the Tathagatas."
From the moment you develop bodhicitta,
you meditate on bodhicitta genuinely, you cultivate bodhicitta, then even you
are still in samsara, still you are trapped in samsara, you still are not totally
free from samsaric conditions -- death, birth, and sickness and so forth -- but
when you develop bodhicitta, you are given the name of, name The Child of the
Tathagata, or The Child of the Buddha, Son of the Buddha or Daughter of the Buddha.
"Today, today I have been born into the Buddha's race. I have become a child
of the Buddhas." So this means, when you cultivate bodhicitta, formally,
when you take Bodhisattva Vow, and when you keep the Bodhisattva Vow, cultivate
it, then you actually become the child of the Buddha. So what does that mean,
become child of the Buddha? And this actually means you become closer to Buddha,
yourself, to become close to the Buddha. And, in other words, closer to become
enlightened, first time. It's like the new moon, the very first new moon, like
a new moon. Then, you know, this new moon, tiny, tiny, thin crescent moon, new
moon, it's going to become full, it is going to become complete moon. It's going
to become full moon after fourteen days, it is going to become full moon. See,
when you see the new moon, we call "Shila"(??) moon, crescent moon,
then after fourteen days it's going to become full moon. Likewise, when you cultivated
the bodhicitta, taking the Bodhisattva Vow, and this is the first, it is like
the new moon. And then soon, you will become Buddha.
So you become the Son
or Daughter of the Buddha. "You outshine the Shravakas and Pratchekas."
You outshine. So naturally you outshine those Hinayanists, the mind of Hinayanists,
and mind of the Shravakas, mind of the Pratchekas. And also you become the supreme
object of offering. Now of course the person who cultivated bodhicitta and who
took Bodhisattva Vow, that person does not wish to become the object of offering.
Right? You don't care if people make offering to you or not. The point here is
that because you have this precious mind, you have this pure love and compassion
towards all beings, therefore this pure love and compassion is shining. People
can feel. And naturally people accept, and they accept you as a object of offering.
It says you become the object of offerings by man, by humans, and by gods, and
even by demigods. Because the bodhicitta is the cause of the Buddha. It is the
most important cause of enlightenment and Buddhahood.
"You amass the
numerous accumulations of the merit with ease." Because of the power of the
bodhicitta, the power of that realization, and then naturally you accomplish all
kinds of merit, all kinds of realizations. Because of the power of bodhicitta,
accumulation of merit happens naturally. And the same time purifications are happening.
It says when you cultivate bodhicitta, if you took the Bodhisattva Vow, if you
cultivate bodhicitta, in other words you meditate on the bodhicitta, and it doesn't
matter what you do -- while you're eating, or sleeping, or walking, or standing,
or talking, or whatever you're doing you are naturally accumulating merit, virtues.
Now this means that naturally, whatever you're doing, you're creating good energy.
For others. I'm not talking about for you, I'm not talking about for your own
sake. Because if you are, as I said, if you are Bodhisattva or you're cultivating
bodhicitta, you don't do it for yourself. So the point here is that you don't
create negative energy. You don't cause problems for other people. You don't harm
others. So instead of harming, you're creating this wholesome energy through your
body, speech and mind, through your body language, through your speech, through
your eye contact. And whatever you do, you're creating wholesome energy, good
energy, good vibration -- for human beings, for animals, for insects, for the
trees, for the rocks, for the earth, for the water, for the sky, for the wind,
for the fire, for everything. Towards everything, towards all living things you're
creating this wholesome energy. And even while you're sleeping you're creating
good energy.
And because of that, naturally, on the other side of the coin,
the other side, you are purifying unwholesome actions, unwholesome karma, unwholesome
energy. And also, at the very same time, all the obstacles of the Dharma path,
all the obstacles of meditation, and all the hindrances will be purified. See,
because you are cultivating selfless mind, bodhicitta. So hindrances of Dharma
practice will be overcome, purified. Most of the time, when we run into problems
with the Dharma, when we run into the problems of the Dharma practice, or when
we run into the obstacles of Dharma practice, what happens is that because of
self-centered mind, ego, our selfish mind, self-centered mind not allowing us
to practice Dharma continuously. And also our delusions -- attachment, ignorance,
largely ignorance, and delusions, and fear, and confusions -- all those things
becomes obstacles for our Dharma practice, Dharma practice for myself and for
all sentient beings. And so these obstacles will diminish by the power of bodhicitta.
And also it says whenever you practice Dharma, Dharmic activities, whenever
you are cultivating Dharma or Dharma activities, whether it is for oneself or
others, whatever practice you do, let's say practice of generosity or ethics or
patience or perseverance and samadhi and shunyata and giving protection, working
for the welfare and wellbeing and happiness of others. If your motivation is pure,
it's not, no self-concern, no self-interest, when there's no self-interest then
that practice will remain. The result of that practice, the power of that practice
will remain with us all the way until we become Buddha.
In other words many
of us, we practice Dharma very hard. We practice generosity, patience and perseverance.
But there's always somewhere there's a self-interest, self-centered mind. We mixed
up our practice, lot of times mixed up with self-centered mind, or ego-grasping,
or self-interest, in other words. It's not pure generosity, it's not pure giving,
not pure patience. It is not pure perseverance. Although it appears generosity,
patience and perseverance. And we wish to practice pure generosity, pure patience,
pure perseverance. We would like to help others without a reward, without expectations.
But we are not able to do, we are unable to do perfect Bodhisattva conduct. Because
we still have self-cherishing, self-interest. Deep in our hearts there's always
self-interest. Why? Because we are born like this. It is our conditioning, cultural
conditioning, samsaric conditioning. Samsaric mind, conditioned by the samsaric
mind. Me, me, me. Me is first, others second. Instead of others first, me later,
later. So there's always self-interest.
So now if you can cultivate pure motivation,
pure generosity, pure patience, then that power of that bodhicitta will stay with
us. It will benefit so much. It says in the, actually Shantideva's text of the
Bodhisattva's Deeds says, "Other virtues is like the planted tree, for it
is there once fruited. Bodhicitta is living tree that continues to fruit and grow."
It's like some tree, they produce fruit once, once every maybe three years or
five years. Some trees like that. Some trees they produce fruit every year, all
the time, very hardy wood. Doesn't matter how hot it gets, cold it gets, and always
producing fruit. So the bodhicitta is like this. Once you accomplish bodhicitta,
and there is the fruit of the virtues always spontaneously or naturally, automatically
producing. And it will benefit so many sentient beings.
And it says if you
have this bodhicitta, realization of bodhicitta, and let's say you give handful
of food to animals, and one or two grain of sunflower seeds you give it to chipmunks,
a chipmunk. And that benefit, that merit will stay. It never diminished. It cannot
destroy by self-centered mind, cannot destroy by ego or miserliness or attachment.
And even smallest Dharmic action, like offering one incense, offering one candle
to the altar, or you say one mantra, OM MANI PADME HUM once, or you give a handful
of food to animals, even the smallest, that the merit, the benefit will stay with
us for a long, long, long time, until we become Buddha. And not only that, the
benefit, the good energy and the benefit will grow, constantly growing, multiply,
double, triple, always keep multiplying.
Also
benefit of the cultivation of the bodhicitta, it says you accomplish whatever
you wish. So this means you can accomplish whatever Dharma, Dharmic realization
or spiritual realization, whatever you wish you can accomplish by the power of
the bodhicitta. Because there will be no obstacles, no hindrances. And once you
have bodhicitta realization, you can accomplish the highest tantric realizations,
whatever levels of tantra. And then one can accomplish the power of realization,
power of tantra.
Let's say if you have a bodhicitta realization, let's say
then you say mantra of Medicine Buddha, healing mantra and if say the healing
mantra, Medicine Buddha mantra: OM BEKANDZE BEKANDZE MAHA BEKANDZE BEKANDZE RANDZA
SAMUNGATE SOHA, you say that mantra and blow [Rinpoche blows] in the water. You
give that water to sick animal or sick person. He or she drink this water, or
wash that person's body, it is so powerful it will purify, it will heal. And hundred
times more effective than saying mantra of Medicine Buddha without bodhicitta,
without this mind of bodhicitta. Or you say the Medicine Buddha mantra and you
blow [Rinpoche blows] on the food, on vegetable or fruit or vitamins, and you
eat or you give it to somebody else, and that has so much nutrition, so much power,
and very powerful. So whatever you wish, you can accomplish the realizations.
And also it says you are not bothered by harm and hindrances. And if you have
realization of the bodhicitta, you don't have to worry about someone might harm
you. And like it says because you will be protected by, like the powerful gods,
like Brahma and Indra and so forth. Like Dharma Protectors, such as Mahakala and
Kalidevi and so forth. There will be no harm. There will be no harm, there will
be no evil things can happen to you. There will be no obstacles. There are powerful
Dharma Protectors called Kurweras (??) and the Four Great Kings, and devas and
devis. They will protect you.
And there was a story, one famous Kadampa, great
Kadampa lama called Geshe Kalumpa. Geshe Kalumpa was meditating in a cave. And
so one time this spirit, ghost, had thought. A thought entered to him, and this
spirit was very jealous, because Geshe Kalumpa was wonderful geshe and he had
disciples, he had followers. So these followers go up to his cave and worshiped
and did the prostrations and delivered food, made offerings. And this spirit,
ghost, was hungry and he was jealous, and he thought, "How come I don't get
any food? Nobody cares. Nobody even paying attention to me. And this monk sitting
in the cave, he gets all kinds of offerings, and people love him so much. And
this is unfair!" And he was very jealous. So then this spirit decided to
harm the geshe and went up to the cave. He thought he would do some harm, like
a spell or a curse. Do something, make him sick, make him give up his Dharma practice.
And so he went up. He went up and he saw that Geshe Kalumpa was meditating, and
he was chanting certain kind of sutra, and he was reciting the mantra. And always
he was saying, "May all sentient beings be happy. May all sentient beings
be free from suffering and cause of suffering. I would like to practice Dharma
for the sake of all sentient beings, for the sentient beings of the six realms.
I wish animals, hungry ghosts, human beings, gods and demigods, all sentient beings
become Buddha right in this moment." So he said, he chanted. And then all
of a sudden this ghost thought, "I cannot harm him. I should not, I can't
harm him. Because he's praying, actually he's praying for me! He's praying for
all sentient beings. And how could I harm him, because he's praying for me. He's
helping me, and he's helping all sentient beings. That's why people love him so
much." So he was smart ghost, and he must have some karmic connection. He
may have had some Dharma, some understanding of Dharma in a past life. Somehow
his karma made him become ghost. And so that moment he changed his mind. And also
that ghost benefited from, right away benefited from the prayer and the power
of the bodhicitta of this great geshe, Geshe Kalumpa.
So also the bodhicitta
is one of the two main important causes of enlightenment. There are two important
causes, called the wisdom and method. So the bodhicitta is called the method,
wisdom is the realization of shunyata. These two are like the wings, two wings
of the bird. And it is not possible to become Buddha without these two wings,
without the bodhicitta. And the bodhicitta is the source of all spiritual realizations,
and the source of all enlightenment, source of all the enlightened qualities.
So the bodhicitta is like the earth, like the Mother Earth. Earth is the source
of all the good, all the goodness. Bodhicitta is like the field, the field, like
the farm, like the field where we obtain all the good food, all the nutritious,
good food and medicines and vitamins and so forth. This is the benefit of the
meditation on bodhicitta. This is why bodhicitta practice is very important.
So
now when we meditate on bodhicitta it is important to again correct our attitude.
We should examine, every time when we practice bodhicitta we should think, "Am
I practicing bodhicitta for the sake of myself? Am I practicing shunyata for my
sake? Am I practicing tantra or mantra for my sake?" And it's easy to forget
that. It's easy to forget that. And it's so easy, so easy for us to think, "Ok,
I like to practice bodhicitta because bodhicitta is so powerful, it's so precious,
so that I can become Buddha soon. And shunyata is very powerful because it cuts
the root of samsara, therefore I can become Buddha soon. Tantric path is so powerful.
It is direct path to enlightenment, therefore I can become Buddha." So it
is important for us to check our motivations. Am I practicing bodhicitta for the
sake of myself, or for all sentient beings?
And sometimes we think, we think,
"I must not forget, I must not forget cultivating bodhicitta because I want
to become Buddha. If I forget that, then I become a Hinayanist. I will go into
the long route. It will take too long to become Buddha. I don't want to go to
the long route. I want cut, shortcut. I want to become enlightened fast."
And then same time forget about all beings. Then is that bodhicitta? Is that Mahayana
attitude or not? It is important, it is important for us to cultivate bodhicitta,
to analyze, to check on our motivation.
So therefore it is also important
for us to learn how to meditate on bodhicitta. So there's two different technique.
One technique is called, technique of cultivation bodhicitta is called Seven Mahayana
Cause and Effect. And, like as I mentioned the other day, you first consider all
beings as a mother. Then you think about the kindness of all beings. And you cultivate
mind of repaying the kindness of all beings. Then you cultivate love and compassion,
supreme wish and so forth.
Then other method is to practice bodhicitta indirectly,
to exchange the attitude of oneself with others. In other words, exchange this
feeling, trying to cultivate, exchange the feeling of oneself with others. In
other words, try to cultivate, try to cultivate the benefit of others first, instead
of me. And cultivate concern, and cultivate compassion for others, and cultivate
and think of sufferings of others instead of my own. Instead of always thinking
about, "I have this problem, I have that problem. I am sick, I am tired.
I feel hurt. I feel abused." Always I, I, I, I. You know? So some people
so self-absorbed.
And of course we are human beings. We have I, self-centered
mind, naturally. And it is not possible right away get rid of this sense of I,
self-grasping. Otherwise easy to become Mahayanist. And same time, I think it
is very important to kind of look outwardly, think about others. For example,
let's say every day take couple of hours, three hours, think about others. Think
about, "What shall I do? How do I do? How do I help others? What can I do
help others, or my neighbor? My colleague or friends, or people in this city?
There's so much suffering, and there are lots of lonely people, sick and old people.
Or what can I do to help people who are suffering, trapped, and being in prison
or under the occupation of dictatorship or regime, and they're suffering. And
people are suffering from racism and ethnic cleansing, and so on and so forth.
What can I do?" Think about, maybe, for at least two hours, a day. Or even
one hour a day. Instead of always me, me, me.
You know, we think about me
all the time. Then, even when you practice Dharma, as soon as you sit down, ME.
"I want to meditate. I like to do some exercise. I like to eat good food.
I like to have good sleep. I like to do, feel good." Everything's me all
the time. So much self-absorbed, self-concern. And I noticed, like, when some
people come for interviews, or when, you know, people talking to each other, I'm
talking Dharma people. A lot of people always talking about me, me, me, all the
time. You know, "I have this problem. I have this problem." So much
problems, dukka, dukka, dukka. It's always dukka, like mantra. "My dukka,
my dukka. I'm so sick. I'm so tired. My energy's not right." And all kinds
of things, and hardly talking about others. Or, "What can I do?"
Yes,
of course, we have to find balance. We have to help ourselves, there's no doubt.
We have to purify ourselves, we need to do meditate. We have to be healthy, as
I mentioned last night. We have to become a better person, healthy person, happy
person, holy person, so on and so on. But same time, also, we can do something
for others and for the society. We have to do something. Otherwise, if we're always
only talking about ourselves -- my meditation, my meditation all the time -- that's
why I think sometimes people are a bit confused, people in this society, you know,
in the west. Some people who are not Dharma people, who don't meditate, they think,
"How does this meditation help? And Buddhist people, oh, they meditate. Buddhists
are meditating. They're meditators. They sit on a cushion, cross their legs. But
how does that help others, help society? How do others benefit?" And, like,
that's the first reaction. First kind of answer people ask, first question people
ask. "How does that help?" It's a good question.
And then people,
some people are kind of shocked, you know? Like when someone's sitting in a cave,
so many years, someone sitting in a temple so many years, doing retreat for three
years, then three years retreat again, and then twice, three year retreat three
times. And some people when they come out from three year retreat still they really
don't know what bodhicitta is. And some people go crazy during three year retreat,
because they have no training, no understanding of bodhicitta, paramitas, before
they go into retreat. Because some people, they say, "Go, go, go, go! Go
into the meditation, do retreat. Good for you! Good! Samsara's no good, just go.
Meditate, say mantras, go into retreat. It's all good. You have nothing to lose,
except samsara. Except your delusions. Go and meditate, it's good. Good luck!
Good karma! You're lucky, fortunate, go." And, but no training. No basic
understanding of lam rim, or bodhicitta and compassion, or six perfections. And
some people go crazy. They leave the retreat, and they come out very confused.
So that's because of no understanding of bodhicitta and no understanding of six
perfections.
So I think it's very important for us to cultivate bodhicitta.
Because ultimately the Dharma, the teaching of the Buddha is for the benefit of
everybody, benefit of all sentient beings, enlightenment for all sentient beings.
And the Buddha himself, for example, left, renounced, when he was called Prince
Siddhartha, he renounced his home, palace, all the wealth, all the money, power,
and positions. Gave up everything. Went searching, looking for the truth, searching
the path, enlightenment. Meditated in the forest, fasting. And went through lots
of purification. But he didn't sit there meditate all the time, and thinking about
me, me all the time. And he, after six years, became enlightened. Then forty-six
years traveled teaching, forty-six years teaching. Talk, teaching, give advice
to people, counseling, teaching, healing. Gave Hinayana teaching, Mahayana teaching,
Tantrayana teaching. Teaching was so important. Teaching Dharma. He taught for
forty-six years. It's all because of the bodhicitta.
So anyway, what I'm trying
to say tonight here -- we need to balance, like, practice, meditation, do retreat,
and then also meditation in action, cultivating bodhicitta, cultivating six paramitas.
Then also go back and meditate. Balance. Or some people also don't meditate. That's
also unbalanced, you know, some people the opposite. Don't meditate, don't do
practice, no samadhi practice, no bodhicitta meditation, I mean, no practice.
They don't do any tantric practice, mantras, visualizations, and retreats, and
no daily practice, no daily commitments. They have a good heart, lots of good
heart, like bodhicitta, lots of bodhicitta, wonderful. Always doing something
for the others, for others. But then what happens sometimes, when you don't have,
when you don't do formal practice, samadhi, and visualizations, or meditation
on shunyata, and then you don't do retreat, and then you become like, you have
this bodhicitta, but then you might end up developing kind of what some lamas
call "idiot bodhicitta." Idiot compassion, or become kind of like martyr.
And not really knowing what is the correct action, what is the correct, right
speech, what is right action, right mindfulness, right livelihood, right concentration,
right compassion. Doing something, but not clear, not sure. Not even sure that
one has some ego and self-interest mixed up with this love of helping others,
love of caring others, love of working for justice and peace and so on and so
forth. That's all good motivation, but it's not very clear, and a little bit mixed
up.
So that's why it's also, it is important to go back, be somewhere alone,
and contemplate, meditate, do retreat. "Ok, I've done lots of work, Dharma-related
work, working for justice and peace and solving problems of societies and so forth.
I've done lots of work, but am I doing the right thing? Do I have right motivation?
Do I, can I see clearly?" It is very necessary, very important to do retreat.
And be alone, contemplate, do some mantras, visualizations, and pray to Tara,
pray to Manjushri, and pray to guru. Say, "Please help me, Tara. You have
compassion. You have wisdom, both. I need your inspiration. Please help me, Manjushri.
You have the wisdom. You cut all the garbage, defilements, delusions. You cut
through. I need your help, your inspiration. I'm here doing retreat for whatever,
one month, three weeks, two weeks, one week, whatever. I'm doing this not just
for I want to hide and I like to run away -- I want to run away from society and,
you know, tired of working and dealing with people. I'm not doing this, but I
need to see what I can do in the future, when I've finished my retreat, go back
to the world. I want to go back to the world. I want to practice generosity, patience,
perseverance, Bodhisattva conduct. I like to make whatever I've been doing, I
would like to make it better. Therefore I'm doing this retreat, doing the mantras,
or visualization, or lam rim retreat." So we have to balance our practice.
I'd like to end talk here, and
if you have questions, any questions, most welcome.
Q: Rinpoche, when I'm
sweeping my floor and some spider or ant or something.
Rinpoche: Sir?
Q:
When I'm sweeping my kitchen floor, and
Rinpoche: Why do you sleep on
the kitchen floor? You have no energy to go to bed?
Q: No, sweeping.
Rinpoche:
Oh! I thought you said sleeping! [Laughter.] Because I know one fellow in Toronto,
he came home from school, he was so tired he had no energy to go to his room.
He crashed on the kitchen floor. [Laughter.] I thought you were talking about
like that. Ok, sorry, sweeping. Sweeping.
Q: Sweeping the kitchen floor, and
if there's a little ant or spider on the floor, my practice is to gently sweep
it up and put it outside. I do that because I have the knowledge that it's a sentient
being, and I do that because I have the knowledge that if I kill it, I incur negative
karma. Is that self-interest? Is my action self-interest or bodhicitta, because
I have knowledge that it's a sentient being and I don't want to kill it.
Rinpoche:
Well, what is the benefit of killing it? You don't get any benefit of killing
it. You don't have to kill. You can wait until the ant or spider go away, and
then you sweep the floor. Or you can pick up the ant or insects or spider, take
it out. But see, some insects, they're not problem. They're not really problem.
We think they're problem. Spiders actually very good. Spiders eat other insects.
If you're worried about other insects, ask spiders come. [Laugher.] And that's
their karma, their food chain. And let them do whatever they're doing.
Q:
But if I do pick up the spiders or the ants and put them outside, if I do that
out of the knowledge that if I kill it I will receive negative karma, is that
self-interest?
Rinpoche: If you don't kill, also you will receive negative
karma, too. If you don't take it out, you might get negative karma also.
Q:
How?
Rinpoche: How? Well, then maybe too many spiders or too many insects.
At some point, then you have to say, "Ok, well I can't stand now. There's
too many of them." Then you might end up killing so many of them, or trying
to take out so many of them. That also can become problem. So, but what I'm saying
is that you don't have to kill. You don't have to kill, see. If you, we know why
they come. Because they come if you don't close the doors or windows, if you don't
have screen on the windows, and if you don't look after your space, place. Then
they'll come, of course they'll come. But there's all kinds of ways of preventing
them to come in. So if you do, if you follow those things, and if you prevent,
methods of preventing coming in, then you don't have to killing, you don't have
to kill.
Yes, but the motivation. You were asking the motivation. The motivation
is, see if you say, "I don't want to kill because of bad karma for me,"
then I don't think that's selfish. You don't want to create bad karma, you know.
And I don't think that's selfish. Because, I don't want to kill because if I kill,
they suffer, for that reason as well. So, they have a right to live. All lives
should be respected, and we should try to protect as much as possible.
Q:
Rinpoche, I really have difficulty in sitting to meditate. I'm not motivated,
I'm not self-disciplined, so I don't want to sit. I realize that it's necessary.
How can I get motivated?
Rinpoche: You don't like sitting?
Q: It's very
hard to actually sit down to meditate by myself.
Rinpoche: So first you think
why you have difficulty sitting.
Q: Lack of self-discipline. And then when
I do sit, it's like monkey-mind, because I'm not used to sitting.
Rinpoche:
Sometimes when you sit down, you feel, "I shouldn't sit here, because I'm
wasting my time. If I'm running around, I can do something good. And maybe I shouldn't
sit." This is why you feel like you don't want to sit, you don't feel like
sitting. Sometimes people have difficulty sitting because of physical problems.
Sometimes people have difficult sitting, because suddenly, when you sit down and
be quiet, then all kinds of thoughts comes and then all kinds of emotions arise.
Then you feel difficult. You feel insecure. You don't want to sit. So you occupy
your mind, forgetting, trying to forget about emotions, feelings and pain, confusions,
suffering. You know, all kinds of stuff. Fear and so forth, delusions. So we try
to occupy our mind, trying to forget those things, you know. And when you sit
down, being quiet, then all kinds of things happening, so that's why, probably,
sometimes people don't like to sit, or can't sit very long.
And also, lot
of times because you're not used to sitting and hard to sit. And hard to sit alone
and be quiet. And when you sit, you want to sit with somebody else. Sitting alone
is difficult sometimes. But in any case, there's some things you can do, one thing
is maybe you need the discipline, so you should make schedule, daily schedule,
ok. Every day I should sit, meditate. You make schedule, you make a commitment
to yourself. Make resolution. Say, "I should sit every day for twenty minutes."
Just sit. Just sit, watch breath. You don't have to do lots of profound things,
and try to do some profound things, or do some complicated meditation, or rituals
and prayers and chanting and so on and so forth. You don't need to do. You just
make commitment to yourself. Say, "I like to just sit. Watch breath."
You make a vow, and say, "I sit in the morning. If not, I sit in the evening.
I sit." And make that commitment. Then you sit.
So you find, yes, you
find problems like monkey-mind, mind jumping around. Others will experience dullness-mind,
sinking-mind, sleeping-mind and so forth. But this is normal. But if you sit,
sit, and you get better. You will get better and better. Then some point you will
feel, some point you will enjoy so much. You feel like, "I like to sit. I
love sitting." And you find out how wonderful to sit, doing nothing. Just
sit. Having that time to sit down, sit and watch breath. Oh, what a nice opportunity,
good opportunity. It's a joy, real joy. It's a real gift. It's so wonderful. And
then you feel very peaceful, actually peaceful and relaxed, your mind. And mind
becomes clear. And also it's very good for your body, good for your brain, good
for your heart. And release stress. So you begin to love, you know, you might
be addicted later on. [Laugher.] "I cannot live without sitting. I have to
sit every day. No matter what, I'm going to sit." It's a good addiction.
Q: Rinpoche, do you have any suggestions for helping children or teens to
be less selfish? Trying to lead by example, maybe, which is the obvious one. But
how can we help our children?
Rinpoche: That's a good question. I think, yes,
being example is very important for us. We as a friend of the children, we as
a parent of the children. So we should become a good example. But sometimes they
don't see that you are practicing generosity, kindness. And they sometimes don't
see. They don't understand why you are giving so much and being kind and nice
to others, because they think, "You are weird!" You know, they always
say, "You are weird! Daddy, you're weird." You know, "Uncle, you're
weird." And they don't understand. So you have to explain to them. It's good
to say, explain why you are doing this. And, "You think I'm weird. But a
lot of good people are weird." [Laughter.] I have some friend, their children
say like that. "Oh, you're weird." Or, "That person is weird. She's
weird." I said to them, "Many good people are really weird. Weird doesn't
mean it's bad." And so then they say, "Why?" "Well lots of
weird people, some people look weird. Like Gandhi looked weird. And you think
weird doesn't mean they're strange or bad or, you know, mad." When the Gandhi
movie came out, all of the kids, they say, "Oh, old man wearing diapers!"
They don't know. Anyway, so you explain how to be kind, gentle, nice.
And
also, because many children are quite selfish, self-centered. Because, yeah, it's
a natural thing, like "Me, me, me. I want this. I need this. I want."
So, I think it's good to say, like "Think about other children. There are
many children in Africa and Asia, your age, and who live very simple. Very little
food, little money, little toys, little clothings. They are also happy, some of
them happy. They are simple, live, but they can be happy. Many of them very unhappy,
suffering. And it is good to share, we should share, give them. And save some
money, have a piggy bank. And let's give this money for Unicef and Children's
fund." And teach them how. Teach them. And then they understand.
And
also say a little bit about what does selfish means? What does generosity and
selfless means? What it does? Why it is good to be generous and selfless? Because
it helps others. Other children and other people. And then sometimes you get to
say, "Well, think about if you are in that situation, if you were on the
other side of the world, how would you feel? If I or somebody give you food, and
a nice T-shirt or nice pants, or whatever. You would feel happy. This is what
we call generosity." So you educate them. Because they are very intelligent.
They understand.
And I think actually, I think the most important thing is
the parents, like us. Because if we, sometimes if we talk too much then they feel
resent, you know. Like especially teenage. Because when the children are very
small, they don't resent, and they don't say, "No, don't tell me." That
means then you teach them, like when they are four years old or five years old,
six years. That's a good time to, time to brainwash. [Laughter.] Right from the
beginning! Then sometimes too late, and they become rebellious. And then it's
too much, they feel too much. "No, don't tell me. Don't." But same time,
when you're practicing, become example. Sometimes you don't have to say to them,
they watch you, they learn. They pick up. It's amazing, sometimes. I found out,
some children, they find out so many things about Dharma. And they tell you, and
you're kind of shocked, makes you feel so happy, wow! I didn't know that she believes
reincarnation. I didn't know she believes karma, or he believes this. And, you
know, it makes you feel very happy. And they give you very good answer, Dharma
answer. They just tell you about Dharma to us, you know. Like I have my nephew,
nephews and niece, and I usually don't force them because, you know, they know
I am teacher, so I just don't say very much to them. So one day my niece say to
me, "Uncle, how do you find out your reincarnation?" And so I said,
"Well, I think I will be around for a long time. Don't worry!"